It only takes a minute to respond “yes” or “no” to an invitation.
According to the etiquette experts at the Emily Post Institute, however, failure to RSVP has become common — no matter if it is a birthday party, dinner party or wedding. The Institute goes on to say that relationships often suffer due to hosts’ frustration and hurt feelings.
Hosts await responses so they can determine how much food and beverages to have on hand, and to coordinate other details of the party. When invited guests do not respond, it can lead to emotional and possible financial stress among party hosts.
With the exception of “regrets only” invitations, it is absolutely essential to let hosts know if their invitation will be accepted or not — and to do so within the time frame expressed on the invitation. It may be uncomfortable to say no, but it shows you respect the party host.
■ If a phone number is on the invitation, call and personally give a response, as leaving a message can be unreliable.
■ Many people now offer texting or email options for responses. It only takes a minute to hit "reply" and give an answer.
■ Evites also are popular. Invited guests simply follow the directions laid out in the evite. Remember to follow up promptly with an answer if you initially opt for "maybe."
■ Mail back response cards promptly so they arrive by the RSVP.
■ Be sure if you receive a "regrets only" invite that you give your regrets if you can't go. If the host doesn't hear from you, your presence is expected.
